Does it ever seem like every couple around you has it all together, while you can’t even agree on what’s for dinner? Wanna know the secret? Watch these 3 messages by Andy Stanley:
A great marriage doesn’t happen by accident. It requires care and regular maintenance. But sometimes we don’t want to make the effort. As long as it’s not broken, do we really need to talk about it?
- It’s Mutual
We all enter into marriage with hopes, dreams, and desires. They create expectations. But when you put those expectations onto your spouse, it turns your marriage into a debt/debtor relationship. Your relationship becomes marked by the belief that your spouse owes you something. So, how do you keep your hopes, dreams, and desires from becoming expectations?
- Sometimes You Have to Throw Things
As long as you think your spouse owes you, your marriage will be all about keeping score. That destroys intimacy. It destroys love. But what are we supposed to do about our hopes, dreams, and desires?
PS: this is a 4 week series. Week 4 is called It’s a Choice. Here is an overview of that message: Happy couples decide they owe each other everything but are owed nothing in return. But that requires effort. Every married person makes a choice every day. That choice feels more like a reaction, so most people don’t think they have a choice at all. But they do. Happy couples make the happy choice.
Erich’s note: make sure you check out the discussion questions for each lesson (consider watching each message with your spouse or a small group and discussing it together).
Your turn… What resonates with your from these messages?